My friend suffering from major depression contacted me after a long quiet spell. Actually, I initiated the communication reaching out to him. We’ve been sending text messages for a number of days now. He doesn’t seem to have the energy to speak on the phone.
I’ve known him for about six or seven years now. I’ve talked to him in times of deep crisis and in happy ones, too. When my internship begins, I am going to strongly urge him to join in the WRAP classes.
A Wellness Recovery Action Plan as taught by certified facilitators has the capacity to alter lives. It changed mine. I cannot stress enough my personal transformation. I walked into the job training a frightened individual who believed he was defined by his illness. I leaped through a stage or two of recovery the first week. My eyes opened. I shed my negative self-talk miraculously.
Recovery works. It really works.
My friend can’t see that as yet, and I do not push. I offer understanding. I have been in the dark pit of despair and made it out with the help of a cadre of supporters. I had family, friends, case workers, a therapist, a psychiatrist, and a psychiatric prescribing nurse practitioner all working to find what would work for me. I believe it allowed me to reach a place of acceptance, opening me to the possibilities of recovery.
My mantra encourages those suffering depression to do just one nice thing for themselves each day. Just one. A simple one.
Many years ago when I was at my lowest, my one nice thing was brushing my teeth. I was incapable of more. Gradually, I was able to exert a bit more energy and add activities to my list each day, but I began slowly.
It’s important for people with mental illness to practice loving acts of self-care. We, who often feel the opposite, are worthy. I am worth it.
What a great post! I, too, subscribe to the doing one nice thing a day for yourself when depressed motto, although I apply it to any day. For a long time, I, too, would brush my teeth as my nice thing for myself. My new nice thing I do for myself is to wash my hair with expensive, great-smelling shampoo. Sometimes that’s the only thing I can muster, even on a good day, but your post reminded me maybe I need to try a little harder! Thank you for that!
Thank you. I’m not alone. It feels good to know that other people are out there trying their best to feel better, too, one little gesture at a time.